Have you ever had someone’s words completely shift your perspective, showing you the way forward when life feels impossible? For me, that person is Mel Robbins.
I first heard Mel speak at an HR conference at the Vancouver Convention Center back in 2019, not long after my husband of 15 years left me 💔
I was feeling lost and overwhelmed, but her keynote address introduced me to the 5-Second Rule—a simple, science-backed tool to stop overthinking and take action. It was a turning point for me.
Since that day, I’ve followed her work closely and integrated her tools into my coaching practice and my own life. Her newest book, The Let Them Theory, is no exception.
💡 What is the Let Them Theory?
Mel’s Let Them Theory is as simple as it is liberating.
When others behave in ways you don’t agree with—or when you’re tempted to control or fix their actions—just say to yourself, Let them.
✅ Let them misunderstand you.
✅ Let them criticize you.
✅ Let them choose their path, even if it’s not the one you’d pick for them.
It’s a mindset shift rooted in the idea that you can’t control others. You can only control you and how you respond. Focus on what you can control —your actions and reactions 🎯
Practice accepting others as they are and releasing control over things you can’t change. Instead of getting caught up in trying to influence or manage others’ behaviors or choices, let people be who they are and do what they do, while focusing on how you respond to the situation.
Letting go of that need to fix or manage someone else’s behavior frees up your energy for the things that truly matter ❤️
Examples of Let Them in Action
👩🏽💻 At work: a colleague doesn’t meet your expectations on a project? Instead of micromanaging, let them take ownership of their work and focus on doing your best.
😍 In relationships: someone judges your choices? Let them. Their opinion doesn’t define your worth.
🤳🏽 With yourself: feeling the urge to overthink every little detail? Let yourself trust the process instead of chasing perfection.
Why It Matters
The Let Them Theory isn’t about apathy—it’s about boundaries, emotional resilience, and staying aligned with your goals. For me, it’s been a game-changer in both life and business, and I’m thrilled to share tools like this with you.
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Who’s your hero, and how have they influenced your life? Send me a message and let me know: coaching@annagradie.com
Lots of love,
-Anna
