Do you speak up? Do you confidently advocate for your ideas? Are you able to set healthy boundaries and initiate tough conversations?
🚨 In today’s competitive world, having a strong, confident voice is essential. Whether you’re navigating the corporate ladder, working in tech, or managing personal relationships, learning to advocate for yourself is a key skill that can significantly impact your success and happiness.
Being assertive isn’t about being aggressive. It’s about expressing your needs, desires, and boundaries clearly and respectfully. You can be empathetic and assertive at the same time ⚖️
Do you communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs effectively? It’s important to stand up for yourself and ensure that your opinions are heard and respected.
🔊 When you have a voice, you can influence decisions, build stronger relationships, and create opportunities for yourself. It’s particularly crucial for women in tech and other traditionally male-dominated fields, where assertiveness can help break down barriers and foster inclusivity.
I recently helped a female leader of an all-male engineering team find her voice and be more assertive at work and at home. By speaking up, learning to say “no”, prioritizing her own needs, and treating herself with more compassion, she became a better leader and had more to give at home ❤️
Check out my tips on being more assertive:
💰 Know your worth: reflect on your achievements, skills, and strengths. Remind yourself regularly of what you bring to the table.
🪞 Practice self-awareness: pay attention to your feelings and reactions in various situations. Understanding your triggers and emotional responses helps you manage them effectively and communicate more assertively.
👁️ Use “I” statements: when expressing your needs or feelings, use “I” statements to take ownership of your emotions. For example, say, “I feel overwhelmed when…” instead of “You make me feel overwhelmed.” This approach reduces defensiveness and promotes constructive dialogue.
🖼️ Set clear boundaries: establish and communicate your boundaries clearly. Let others know what you are comfortable with and what you are not. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and preventing burnout.
👂🏽Practice active listening: assertiveness isn’t just about speaking up. It’s also about listening. Pay attention to what others are saying, validate their feelings, and respond thoughtfully.
To find and use your voice even more, I highly recommend reading “Step into Your Moxie” by Alexia Vernon 💡
Moxie isn’t about being fearless. It’s about feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
How can you use your voice and be more assertive?
☑️ Embrace vulnerability: being authentic and vulnerable in your communication can build trust and deepen connections. Don’t be afraid to share your true thoughts and feelings.
☑️ Practice self-compassion: be kind to yourself. Accept that you won’t always get it right, and that’s okay. Self-compassion helps you bounce back from setbacks and continue advocating for yourself.
☑️ Develop a power pose: stand with your feet firmly planted, shoulders back, and hands on your hips. This physical stance can help you feel more powerful and ready to tackle difficult conversations.
☑️ Prepare and rehearse: before important meetings or presentations, take time to prepare and rehearse what you want to say. Practice in front of a mirror or with a trusted friend to refine your message and delivery.
☑️ Visualize success: spend a few minutes each day visualizing yourself succeeding in situations where you need to be assertive.
☑️ Set intentions: start each day by setting an intention for how you want to use your voice. Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, setting a boundary, or advocating for a project, having a clear intention can guide your actions and keep you focused.
☑️ Seek feedback: don’t be afraid to seek feedback from trusted colleagues or mentors. Constructive feedback can provide valuable insights into how you can improve your assertiveness and communication skills.
What tip do you want to try? By integrating these lessons into your daily life, you can strengthen your voice and become a more effective advocate for yourself.
Assertiveness is a skill that can be learned and refined with practice. So, step into your moxie and let your voice be heard 🚨
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Lots of love,
-Anna
